Nov 25
Note the paw

Note the paw

I must admit that this is being posted posthumously. Maybe it’s because we’d already lost Sasha or maybe because she wasn’t as close to me as she was to Inna. Either way, I’m attempting to correct an oversight.

We lost Alex today. She’d always been a paranoid cat–the first to run and hide when visitors came or when the garbage trucks rumbled by. Recently, she’d taken to spending most of her time hiding. At first, this was nothing new. She didn’t get along with a couple of the cats here and they harrassed her when we weren’t around. We did what we could but ultimately, she was on her own for hours at a time.

Alex and Sasha 3 (9/13/2005)She had Sasha. She and Sasha were close. At least for most of their lives. As Sasha’s cancer started to limit her movement, Alex also seemed to become more touchy. She used to spend a lot of time sitting next to Inna when she was on the couch but that changed. Once Sasha passed away, she took to hiding all day. At first, we just assumed it was just her handling Sasha nad her trouble with the other cats. But, then when we started finding her in her “safe house” behind the washer and dryer, we started to worry. When she started peeing under herself back there because she didn’t want to leave, we took her to the vet.

After a couple of trips we secluded her in a bathroom to allow her some peace from the other cats and to observe her better. It was a roller coaster ride at that point. She started getting better, sitting in the sink, looking content. But then she’d relapse and go hiding. We took her to the emergency clinic on Sepulveda in West LA one night after finding her seemingly paralytic. Her whiskers trembled and twitched and her pupils were dilated. She seemed like she couldn’t move.

Alex 9/6/2004At the clinic (actually, more of a full blown hospital), she got fluids and they tried to figure out what was going on. Some sort of neural disorder? Virus? No idea. At one point there was talk of a stroke. But, then 24 hours later, she was doing better. On a hunch, the doc put her on anti-vertigo medication and she was home a day later.

Again, she seemed to improve. Things were moving along. We were slowly taking her off the battery of meds she’d been on (antibiotics, anti-vertigo, anti-justabouteverything) Inna took her to the vet on 11/24 (Monday) for a checkup and to see if we can stop one of the last medications. The doc said she looked good and I went to pick her up from Inna’s office. Once I got her home, though, things didn’t look good at all. She was barely willing to leave the carrier and her pupils were dilated. By the evening, I was debating with my wife if we should take her to the clinic again. She was barely moving, breathing heavy. Inna didn’t want to take her in. We’d been taking her into vets and the hospital so much we felt it wasn’t a good idea to traumatizer any more. I also think Inna knew this time she wasn’t going to make it.

The next morning, Inna took Alex to the California Animal Hospital (where the doc was) and she promptly got a call 20 minutes later when she got to work. Alex flatlined. The doc wanted to know if she wanted to resuscitate. Inna said no and Alex was gone.

Alex conquers Sasha's territory 5/8/2005We still don’t know what it was that killed her. Her blood work told the docs nothing except maybe that she was fighting a slight infection (though the numbers weren’t 100% on that). She was eleven years old. It always seems we lose cats to unknown illnesses, only because no one gives a shit enough to research and understand what they die from.

Alex was the first rescue we ever snatched off the street. She was this little kitten dying a slow death from some sort of upper respiratory infection. My wife, ever the magnet for lost animal souls, found her amongst a cat colony around the last house on an apartment row across Sepulveda from the Galleria (Yes, THAT Galleria…like, oh my god). The old lady living at the house was one of those types that didn’t care for them but did put food out and let them breed. There were a solid number of cats (had to have been at least 20-30).

The day after Inna decided to organize a rescue (she got latex gloves from work, a cardboard box, the works), she found her on the driveway for an apartment building next door to the house. A tiny kitten some how not flattened by cars exiting the garage. Inna snatched her up and packaged her up…unfortunately, not well since she escaped and was running around the car on the way in.

Alex spent a solid six or more months on meds and in our care. She was tiny, fitting easily into my palm. She spent loads of nights sleeping on a towel in my lap, snorting on the phlem choking her. Eventually she pulled through. The interesting discovery was that she had an extra digit on every paw…I guess it’s called polydactylism. It made her stand like she was a ballerina…which was funny given the fact that I likened her to a street punk.

Alex in a famous pose 5/26/2007She lived in my office until we had a disagreement that involved her eventually crapping on my books. Let’s just say she wouldn’t listen and instead decided to freak out (I take plenty of blame, so…).

At that point, she got the boot and joined the two cats we’d bought (the only ones we bought) in the living room. From that point on, she was always in contention with some other cat. Still. She outlived my little Amanda. And Sasha, by a few months.

I remember how she would sound. Not exactly the voice of a diva but you always knew it was her. Because of that episode above, she tended to eye me warily but eventually she warmed a bit to me. Even so, she was 100% Inna’s cat. She always came to her for comfort and was always at Inna’s feet in the mornings. And, she loved to go outside…even though she often ended up running away from the outside cats.

So, though it’s delayed, Alex, I hope you’re happier and calmer where you are now. No more enemy cats on the horizon. No more garbage trucks to worry about. Just you and Sasha hanging out in the ether. While you might not look forward to seeing me again, I hope to see you (hopefully after a LONG while). I know Inna misses you. Seems fitting that Mozart’s Requiem (intro) just came up in the iTunes rotation. Requiem aeternam dona eis, Dominae, et lux perpetua luceat eis.  They deserve it.

kn

Aug 11

The vet came at quarter ’til 11am…my heart skipped when he knocked. The morning had been an uneasy affair but a good one, nonetheless. Sasha took her pills, ate her breakfast, drank, went to the bathroom…all the things she needed to do on her last day. We sat with her on the rug watching the Olympics, petting her.

Once the vet was here, he gave her an anesthetic which took some time to kick in. The doc had tried to inject her on her left side but she yelped so he did her right. He also had trouble finding her vein. She was getting disoriented as she started looking around and sniffing a lot, as if trying to get her bearings. We waited a while…I think he didn’t administer the fatal dose until around 11:15am. Once he did though, she was gone in a heartbeat.

The mortuary guy arrived 30 minutes later, which was just right. Not too early and not too late. We had a chance to say our final goodbyes after the fact and within a few minutes, he showed up. I asked him to put some final biscuits she’d been working on this morning in with her when she was cremated. I always worry about these pet mortuaries…I hope he’s solid and not like those others that don’t give a shit.

Now, I’m trying to work to get my mind off of her for now. I know tonight will be hard as will the rest of the week but the worst part is over. She had so much life in her last hours it only makes it more sad.

I moved some images off the camera to my computer but the best are those photos from this beach next to Zuma in Malibu…we went for one day (she didn’t like car trips) but it was a nice day. I can’t seem to get them posted up right…wait, here we go:

Goodbye Sasha. You will be missed more than you know.

 

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Aug 10

…at least I think so. We watched TV, hung out on the rug with her, played with her, pet her. Did everything we could. If it weren’t for the cancer and her arthritis she’d be just like a puppy. People always thought she was a puppy when we walked her, maybe because she wasn’t very big. Still, she always had a sort of exuberance that masked her age.

I decided I want to keep her cow toy (which my wife corrected me on…her friend brought her a duck which she promptly destroyed and we got her the cow since we learned from that duck that she liked those sorts of toys–other toys never worked with her) and her leash. My wife’s getting something to remind her of Sasha…black onyx.

She was very content here...

She was very content here...

Just a couple hours left in the night and not a whole lot left in the morning. Tonight’s going to be hard because I won’t want to sleep since I know it will bring the morning even faster.

Tomorrow’s going to be even worse but I’m sure it’ll be here and there until the next day. I’m sure by Tuesday we’ll be numb and we’ll start to heal. The hard part is getting back into the routine and getting work done. I think I’ve got the harder job since I work at home. I’ve gotten used to keeping an eye on her and saying hello and goodbye every time I came in and left.

Plus, I’ll miss her in the evenings…she used to always be there, sleeping in her bed. I’m sure my wife will want to throw everything out but I think it’s better to keep what you can. As she’d told me (and I know this), it’s always best to think about the good times. This is advice I give others but it’s hard to take your own advice.

Good night, Sasha. Sweet dreams of many more good days wherever you’ll be.

kn

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Aug 10

I’ve done what I could to get most of my work done so I can spend the day keeping Sasha company along with my wife. T-minus 24 hours. Today is the day of “last times”.

She managed to live long enough to witness three Olympics. Not that she has any idea what they’re about but still…we measure everything by what we know and see.

Tonight will be really hard…you go to bed knowing that in the morning, you’ve got to wake up to put your dog…your friend…your daughter…to sleep.

She’s had a decent life. We weren’t home all the time so it was filled with long periods of boredom and loneliness. But, we’ve had fun together. The next 24-48 hours will be difficult but I know, as with all difficult things, the low point will pass and we will continue on. We won’t forget Sasha but it’ll hurt less.

kn

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Aug 08

There are few times when I really pay attention to the passage of time and want to do something to stop it. Right now, I find myself realizing it’s Friday night…my wife’s going to bed at her usual time and I’m thinking…shit. Two days left for Sasha. Then I get this feeling in my gut…a sort of anxiety that makes me want to grab the Earth and stop it from moving just for a little while.

I started playing with Sasha in her bed and she started acting like her old self, playing with her decapitated and beat up cow toy. It was this great toy that a friend of my wife’s gave her for Sasha. She loved it from day one and over time destroyed it so that it’s really just a piece of cloth with a little bit of stuffing in the legs. Even so, she used to love playing with it…no other toy did it for her. I’ll miss those times when she was leaping around tossing the thing in the air as we’re trying to maneuver the remote control for the TV around her.

How do you reconcile this sort of thing?

As always, music is a big part of my life and a lot of times certain pieces get tied to those events because those pieces just happen to be on my play list at the time. I know my professor at Anderson that went over all sorts of aspects of psychology and the brain with use would bring up the concept in that one lecture about associative memory.

Right now, it’s Gravity of Love by Enigma. I know, sappy and all but I can’t help that they used a piece of the only movement of Carmina Burana I really like (and that most people know). And, it actually works.

For Amanda, it was Mein Herz Brennt by Rammstein. It was the quietest song I had at the time in the car as I shuttled her back and forth to the vet.

T-minus 60 hours.

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